Retro CPO: What It Feels Like To Be Adopted

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Each month we will feature a “retro” CPO article, one that is pulled from our archives of quarterly newsletters. Whenever possible we will provide details regarding the author and date of publication.

This month’s Retro CPO article was written by an adopted child, J*, in the Winter of 2003.

My middle name is the same as my birth mother’s middle name. I live in Europe. I have two sisters, a mom, and a dad. They love me a lot. My birth mother’s name is L*. She placed me for adoption so I would have a dad and a better future. I’m not sad or mad for that because I know she did it for a good and right reason. I get to see her sometimes and I send her emails a lot and she writes back.

I was so young when my parents told me I was adopted I didn’t really understand. I didn’t even know what the word “adoption” meant. But little by little I understood more and more. I sometimes thing it’s cool to be adopted because it’s sort of special. But here in Europe it’s really hard to explain adoption to the other kids in my class. Adoption is not that common here and the kids that are adopted are not adopted at birth. They are usually in orphanages. Sometimes I feel bad for my mom because I keep thinking that she thinks I love my birth mother more. But then I talk to her about it and she says it’s all okay.

I think my birth mother made a good decision. My future is different and I have the greatest dad, mom, and sisters in the world. I’ll never stop loving her. There’s always a place for her in my heart, and a place for the rest of my family I know God has a special plan for me and a special plan for all the other kids in the world that are adopted.


*The names of the women and children CPO helps are often redacted for privacy purposes.